Below here are the following hadith and Quran that shows 17 Islamic rules for second marriage. In this case, the divorced wife does not need to marry the second husband and get a divorce from him. the second wife got baby. Now I also got 1 boy child. Lets be real here these conditions for polygamy to happen that everyone keeps mentioning Wheres the proof? I will appreciate that. You can decide to divorce him. Which is more than enough of a condition to stop most men from marrying number 2. For me it is so repulsive to imagine my beloved husband having another woman, making love to her and then the next day coming to me and making love to me. Have more time for ur friends than her. He also told a lie that he has severe disease but that lady continues to intact with him. This is a very great blessing indeed, which is not appreciated by I used to cook food for them I did everything a wife should be doing. looking at women is natural and unsinnful is just YOUR THINKING AND NOT ALL MENS. Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this.? But it did.My husband did not get married to a second wife. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. And seek only to please Allah subhana watala. What are rhis women supposed to do? Allah knows best! Although I have watched horrible videos in the past, I try not to anymore. and his wealth, until he meets Allaah with no sin on him. Classed as saheeh Its only allowed on some cases where its really needed. This is what I am afraid of. both of you. Her patience in putting up with her husbands marrying a Ahhhhhhh,,,now thats showing respect with a capital RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! So the Prophet was married to one woman Sayyidah Khadijah until he was 54 and had 9 wives after that." (Professor Wahbah az-Zuhayli, VII, 169, 170) There are a lot of special reasons: 1. I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. They are rather contradicting statements. If you are living off her money. First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. Correct me if i am wrong. And to end it with go make me a sandwich? He will most likely never consider a second wife. If he doesnt abuse you or sleep around. Very good knowledge!! Bukhari and Muslim. Allaah has caused men to be attracted to women, and women to be attracted to men, and this inclination sometimes results in haraam relationships such as zina, and sometimes it results in permissible relationships such as marriage. Second, it may indicate that you are committed to the feelings your sister-in-law has for you. I am an unmarried dude and may join the marriage club soon enough. As Mohammed Mynul Islam said, and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. How can he ever cheat on me with the dami man. So when a man asks his wife, and this is a good point, the hadith says ASKS his wife, not force it upon her, and she says no without reason, in order to get back at him, because they are fighting and she wants to teach him a lesson. This is an old post, I am not sure what is your situation now. Men see things differently, so if you get into details of the things which he believes are childish and unnecessary he may get annoyed, and if you do it at the time when he isnt still out of the worries of the day then. And none of his wives ever complained about anything. Allaah has made the wife a covering for her This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. Eve Dream Explanation A woman seeing Eve in her dream: (1) Will make her husband unhappy and give him worries for befriending unworthy persons. Some things may be hard to swallow for us women, but Allah swt Created us this way, so rather empower yourself with this knowledge and understanding, than bemoan and question the way of things. Thank you for making it clear, I was already shocked by the comments 0.0. theres a thing called devil n he took the better of my husband n he repeated himself in his act of betreyal.god damn it it hurts.n its all this male mustangs fault.respect,huh!!! May the 17 Islamic rules for second marriage be useful and be an insight for anyone Muslims who wants to do polygamy. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. permissible manner. And if a sister gives him her all, it is duty of a man to be honest always. the guy has duty to keeping his wife well comforted before he even thinks selfishly about his own satisfaction. Well you should about that before gething married then, would you rather him go to someone else. . Jazakumullahi Khairan. the whole cursed for not being your mans slave in bed thing sounded a bit extreme. It doesnt mean hes thinking about taking a second wife. Although this dream does not usually mean what is been portrayed in the dream, this could be a result of something which happened in the past finding its way back to our present life. This is a wonderful piece Masha Allah to whoever posted this. therefore he may likely to love d one who shows much respect most. It is about give and take. Surely a Muslim husband would be accommodating and respectful of his wife in full Win his trust, by not avoiding unnecessary problems of the day as much as you can, and tell him the most necessary ones, at the right time. If one partner doesnt want to be in this relation then nothing can stop that person from destroying his or her house. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. It is not fair to find a second wife if this second wife does not know he is married, and the first wife does not know he wants other. Would you rather he cheat and have haram sex ??? Because I love him too much but he loves the 2 nd wife only. 5. Any true Muslim woman that follows the Quran and not her husbands list of expectations would know how to treat her husband, a stupid list like this is not even necessary. Its the second time in my life that the word second wife was mentioned to me. Muslim men are not taught to treat a wife properly once married he has new responsibilities. Make sure you marry a good person that will oblige to your wishes that is all. In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back! Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. (ii) Mustahab i.e recommended or encouraged, (iv) Makruh i.e not recommended or discouraged. this second wife issue is not for fun as many men want to believe. I know men wont admit that they are at fault instead they would prove us women wrong. If commitment. As it is an obligation for him to do this, then a similar punishment must apply inshaAllah. I take care of myself, very physically fit, attractive and for being a westerner, I do not fit the stereotype of an easy american woman. One should learn how to respect his wife. take time to find out. A woman who loves her husband and fears losing him. Jazakallah khier. God bless you. I pray Allaah helps you and others in situations like yours. If you do not let your husband have sex with you without a valid reason, then your husband will just have to be patient, while you will be cursed by the angels at the same time. abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good None of us see what you have to deal with or how much effort youve put into your relationship, but Allah sees it all and hell reward you accordingly inshaAllah. Your husband is a human not an animal. This is just how it is, in all schools of thought in Islam. But if he does not do it purposely then he wont get sins. Ameen. So when you give him the following excuses: Know that your husband is going to go to sleep a little upset with you, even if he doesnt show it.And do this often enough, hes going to start resenting you. I just find out he have been with man to. (Imam al-Bukhari ). Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. Please reference your sources, maybe you need to be careful what you say cause you will be accountable for your intentions and whats in your heart. Sharing my husband with another woman. husband and has made the husband a covering for his wife. Astagfirullah Allah forgive us all ameen. Our minds collect things and remember much better than we think. We have Your side of the story sister. May Allah forgive you, Salam, Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. If they do what you hate, beat them with a hard blow and hurt. Imaan will give you the strength you need to overcome the problems in your life and deal with things you are unhappy with. He never read Esha namaaz that night, because he never woke up. Sister Fatima, a husband is never permitted to force his wife to have sex with him. ALLAAH made them that way. He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. or He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. No he does not need to ask premssion pologamy is halal not haram. 1. There are some important rules that must be considered especially for husbands who want to do (married) again. i`m sleeping alone. But also recognize that this will also cause damage and harm to your family. 5. Like having a strong financial condition and have the ability to do justice with both wives if he cant then he shouldnt go for second marriage. very nice.. now all we have to do is FIND ourselves nice husbands worthy of all what u have written in the article above..but to add a point, women are not servants.. they are mans partners.. equal partners in life. The article asks women to respect their husbands but the final point says if he doesnt say I love you its alright, he still loves you. As for men cam think of other woman?? 1) Respect is earned. Ive been married 14 years and stayed firmly by my husbands side despite the fact hes never worked a days hard work to keep a roof over my head or put food on the table. I am not certain were in the world you are situated but living in the west and all of the Sexual propaganda that we are bombarded with is a great fitna. Lastly, just like the man, a woman desires respect from her man too. And we do need your support.And its very troubling to be married to a woman who may not be around when the going gets tough.If you are constantly threatening divorce or separation or Khula (Islamic divorce initiated by the wife), you can expect your marriage to fizzle out very quickly. You said a man is not allowed to marry a 2nd without the first PERMISSION. - Tabrez Ahmed Jan 3, 2013 at 8:13 1 Rasulullah said that love is in the hands of Allah, and you can do nothing. (interpretation of the meaning): Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by From the point of view of religion: Probably, it is no longer a secret that Islam strictly forbids men and women to chat, unless they are close relatives of each other, or the marriage between them is forbidden by Shariah. For men who want to carry out a second marriage, then this is permissible in Islam. Yh im a girl and right now i wish i could punch u in your face!!!! Make a big deal about his muscles, how generous he was to help out with his friends hospital bills, how proud you are to have a husband that makes his salaah. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. Correction is painful. To those of you brothers who work at trying to be kind, considerate and loving to your wives, may Allah give you an enormous reward. You will find the strength IA. This post is general, it doesnt work on husbands who are unfair with their wives. Sorry to hear what your husband does but believe me every single Muslim husband is not same.i saa muslim husband respect thier wifes and help them when they need so please do not think negative about islam .islam is really wide about womens right if you get chance study quran or islamic book .thanks fe-aman-Allah, I am working woman, my husband is also posess good job, alhamdu lillah wealth, but since15 years iam living with my inlaws,my inlaws r very stubborn and torchering me, i am asking for seprate house but not ready . 6 mos later he asked me to marry him. Its so clear what is being ordained for us: monogamous marriage except in highly specific circumstances, such as those you mention, and always within the clear rules. sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, not even a AssalamuAlaykum Im happy,couze my husband big resfect me when it comes sex,if he want and idont like make sex w/ him,he just say ok fine but he is not angry 2 me..thans 4 the nice topics n adviceAllah huakbar.. hmmm youre happy; but is he really happy? to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). I remembered so many years ago when the life of another woman depended on my decision and what my decision was. If you still want to know more then as a sheikh. arguments arise amongst them, which turn the marital relationship into an . I love my husband so much that I can not see myself sharing him with another woman. (2) Will face a terrible ordeal, because Eve was the first woman ever to have menses. We are all human and built that way. Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. A husband needs to pay attention to this, especially if you have two or more wives. Women want physical intimacy too. There was an immediate connection between us. But there are certain aspects of that needs addressing. 5815. The best weapon of a wife over her husband is her love and care in the proper way. So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. In some of the following hadith, it is stated. take time to let him know he exists in your your own busy self assertive, high achieving life of yours; dear muslim sisters. It may be that this if you study Islam truthfully you will know u need to ask first. And since Hajj is the jihad of a woman, accepting polygamy for the first wife is more than jihad. these are selfih man, and simple women who dont stand up for themselves. 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